Is losing someone who has become a part of your life worth all the tears?
This is one part I hate about love.
When you’ve been with someone for months, for years and then he/she suddenly says goodbye it would be like a thousand knives striking into your heart.
It’s a reality that we should or will all face at some point of our lives.
A reality that I tried to escape from.
It was only this afternoon that I found out that my two “co-Heralds” were dumped by their significant others. It was just a couple of days ago when we were talking about their love lives in a classy supermarket at The Fort.
My girl co-worker told me that she and her boyfriend had been having problems. But I think it was her boyfriend who has a lot of issues since he’s been cold to her for no particular reason. Then the other one (a guy) confessed that he has a girlfriend whom he met in a country where he stayed for four years – Dubai.
Long distance relationships. That I can relate. Been there, done that – it never works out. But of course, I had to put that little thought of mine aside since his case was different and his girl was coming back here for next semester according to him.
Then my friends were dumped.
The publications office became their sanctuary. They both shed their tears in our working and hang-out place. It’s funny because if you’ll come to think of it, the office has witnessed a lot of emotions that we poured out.
There’s anger and hatred between: a) RC and Jed; b) RC and Miss J and C) RC and Pam.
Then there’s pain and hurt. I remember how an old suitor and former Herald cried in front of me after I turned him down. Now it’s A and R’s turn to cry. Thank God, because the dominant emotions are feeling of panic (because of deadlines) and happiness (or call that craziness in our case).
Now whose turn it is to cry and get his heart broken?
I hope it’s not me because I’m sick of it.
We are all inclined to feel sad or depressed when someone we loved so dearly decides to take the path of life without us while we dream of a future with them. They give out excuses like: “You deserve a better man/woman” “It’s not you. It’s me.” Or “I need some space.”
It’s a cliché, I know and that’s what it makes it suck more. The excuses, why don’t you just be HONEST and tell the truth? It would be better if you tell it straight to the point.
And if someone leaves you it’s ok to cry. It will not make you less of a man if you will express how sad you are through crying. It’s normal and healthy because after all that weeping the feeling would be lighter and somehow better.
The experience of being dumped will or should make you stronger, a fighter.
Tell yourself that this will not happen again. The next time you will love, expect the chances of getting hurt. I guess, the more you expect of it, the less it will affect you in the future.
You can love. Sure you can. But guard your heart, listen to your soul, and use your mind.
Do you best but expect the worst because there are no such things as fairytales and perfect love stories.
This is one part I hate about love.
When you’ve been with someone for months, for years and then he/she suddenly says goodbye it would be like a thousand knives striking into your heart.
It’s a reality that we should or will all face at some point of our lives.
A reality that I tried to escape from.
It was only this afternoon that I found out that my two “co-Heralds” were dumped by their significant others. It was just a couple of days ago when we were talking about their love lives in a classy supermarket at The Fort.
My girl co-worker told me that she and her boyfriend had been having problems. But I think it was her boyfriend who has a lot of issues since he’s been cold to her for no particular reason. Then the other one (a guy) confessed that he has a girlfriend whom he met in a country where he stayed for four years – Dubai.
Long distance relationships. That I can relate. Been there, done that – it never works out. But of course, I had to put that little thought of mine aside since his case was different and his girl was coming back here for next semester according to him.
Then my friends were dumped.
The publications office became their sanctuary. They both shed their tears in our working and hang-out place. It’s funny because if you’ll come to think of it, the office has witnessed a lot of emotions that we poured out.
There’s anger and hatred between: a) RC and Jed; b) RC and Miss J and C) RC and Pam.
Then there’s pain and hurt. I remember how an old suitor and former Herald cried in front of me after I turned him down. Now it’s A and R’s turn to cry. Thank God, because the dominant emotions are feeling of panic (because of deadlines) and happiness (or call that craziness in our case).
Now whose turn it is to cry and get his heart broken?
I hope it’s not me because I’m sick of it.
We are all inclined to feel sad or depressed when someone we loved so dearly decides to take the path of life without us while we dream of a future with them. They give out excuses like: “You deserve a better man/woman” “It’s not you. It’s me.” Or “I need some space.”
It’s a cliché, I know and that’s what it makes it suck more. The excuses, why don’t you just be HONEST and tell the truth? It would be better if you tell it straight to the point.
And if someone leaves you it’s ok to cry. It will not make you less of a man if you will express how sad you are through crying. It’s normal and healthy because after all that weeping the feeling would be lighter and somehow better.
The experience of being dumped will or should make you stronger, a fighter.
Tell yourself that this will not happen again. The next time you will love, expect the chances of getting hurt. I guess, the more you expect of it, the less it will affect you in the future.
You can love. Sure you can. But guard your heart, listen to your soul, and use your mind.
Do you best but expect the worst because there are no such things as fairytales and perfect love stories.
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